"Don't die with your song still inside of you..." - Dr Wayne W. Dyer

... keep singing despite the whispering around you, and about you.

Daring big, dreaming big comes with a price... the price is (apart from the hard work) having to face energies around you that may present themselves as doubt, criticism and disbelief. They can be internal but also come from the outside world. In this post, we are focusing on the ones from the outside world. And oh boy... do they have an impact on our internal wellbeing.

We all have dreams that are our own. We all are passionate about something that comes from within. No matter how big or small, they can be equally frightening.

Somewhere, with our dreams, no matter how frightening, we are most likely to find that inner calling that tells us, that maybe, just maybe, I should try to pursue them. So you might decide to listen to it, pursue them, feel scared and uplifted at the same time.

That is perfectly normal.

Your dreams and other people

On top of that, you may also experience judgment, questioning and vague support from people in your surrounding. Maybe they talk about your decisions using minimising words. Maybe their voice tone is revealing their skepticism. Maybe they are asking questions in a way that is saying that they already have decided that what you want is doomed to fail, and not worth pursuing. And then they wrap it up with: but yeah you go ahead, whatever makes you happy...

It may come from a place of worry or not understanding. And what we don't understand, we resist. That is just the way it is.

Nobody praises you for your boldness, they may even minimize your dream

And that is painful for you who are attempting something so bold as your dreams. To not be understood and encouraged on this, to be different from the standard, to be questioned about your choices and in a subtle way declared as incompetent, it hurts! But you have to keep going.

Their judgment, questioning and vague support may discourage you. It may add to your self doubt, it may make you feel conflicted within yourself because you have a strong voice in you that is pulling you and at the same time a surrounding that is trying to suffocate it because it just does not fit their standards, and you think... what if they are right? Leaves you with doubt, feeling of loneliness, maybe even stronger fear, feeling that maybe you are missing out on something they know, and so on, and so on...

But you are not! Be true enough to yourself to follow your own path. Stand by it and keep going.

" What if I Fail? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly? "- Erin Hanson

You may feel like you are losing. You may feel like you are crazy. But you gonna have to keep going. You just gonna have to. You are not them. You are not their standards, you are not their boxes. The only thing you have to do is be true to yourself.

Do you know why you are doing it? Are you doing it for you or others? Ask yourself; if I don't pursue my passion, dream and goals... how will that feel in 10 years? Will I look back and be proud that I chose my own way... or will I look back with resentment because I let others expectations and standards rule me? Or maybe you will keep on living your life by their standards and boxes trying to convince yourself that they are yours too. Because that is what you are supposed to do. 

Someone once told me the definition of depression: your soul doesn't agree with the lies you are telling your mind, so it leaves you and you fall into darkness.

So be true. Be kind. Be real and be bold. 

You can and you will, if you will. 

So please, don't die with your song still inside of you.

Love,

S&B

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